Monday, June 13, 2011

SEX... DIRTY?

Sex.
Sex, sex, sex.
Dirty word?
Dirty deed?
Who says so?

Many Mom’s and dad’s say so even though they do it.
Oodles of Pastors and Preachers say so even though they practice it.
Some Priests say so even though they pretend to be celibate (I won’t mention what else they’ve done).
Some little kids think so but they have no clue yet (“Ooooohhh, cooties!”)
Some teens think so because they’ve been taught it is so… many teens don’t.
Some old men are called “dirty old men” because they are considered sexual perverts.
The statistics for old women are to become more promiscuous/inventive/exploratory upon entering “old age.”

People who have sex, in American culture, are either considered:

Married
- or -
Whores
Sluts
Man-whores
Fornicators
Cheaters
Adulterers
Masturbators

Sex is also considered…

Fun
Beautiful
To express love
Exercise
Personal expression
Release
Healing

For some sex can be…

Impossible
A challenge
Better with oneself
A score
A mental fixation

For some, sex is thought of as:

For getting pregnant
Molestation
Rape
Dangerous
Not for children
Not for teens
Not for old people
Not for sick people
Not for ugly people
Abusive
Criminal
Evil

For Bible thumpers the…

Marriage bed is undefiled (Hebrews 13:4)
But this can also mean a husband or wife can…
Rape, molest, or use the marriage as a license to otherwise abuse
because no “wrong” can be done if the marriage bed is undefilable.

So many other forms of sexual expression are common worldwide…

BDSM (role play, heightened sexual intensity/release)
Bestiality (zoophilia - farmer Joe did it, and so did the shepherds)
Oral sex
Anal sex
Kama Sutra (many positions)
Kabbalah (sexual direction)

People who have sex can be…

Straight/heterosexual
Gay/homosexual
Lesbian
Bi-sexual
Transgender
Transsexual
Hermaphrodite

Pop Quiz: Can a eunuch have sex?

And there is…

Nymphomania
Necrophilia
Hypersexuality
Sexual phobias
Sexual blocks

And all of these are but samples of a plethora of alternatives
within normal, sexual, human functioning and practices…

ALL are within the normal range of human variation around the globe.
ALL are “normal” except for the rules and labels that people call it.

Sex is normal.

We are here for three reasons…

To eat
Survive
Reproduce

Anything outside of that does not matter.
The human race can only continue if those three things occur.

Right now the human population is exploding.
The earth cannot sustain a global epidemic from overproducing more people.

We have grown beyond the need to reproduce.
When that happens (and this the first time in history or pre-history where it has happened)…

There is no need for reproducing.
There is no need for sex?

Except as fun, as something beautiful, to express love or for personal expression, for exercise, release, and healing… and more.

Or we should just call sex “dirty”?

It is not who does it that makes sex “right” or “wrong”…
It is not their age, gender, social status, socioeconomic status, ethnicity, nationality, whether they have a penis or a vagina (or both or neither).

It is how society labels sex that makes it “right” or “wrong”
How it is enculturated into our thoughts and beliefs.
How it is formed into mindsets…
How it is used for or against others...
That makes it “right” or “wrong”

Sex is unsafe.
Sex is safe.
Sex is bad.
Sex is good.

Sex, my friends, is just sex.

How do you think about sex?

Why?
Where did you learn that?
Who told you?

You were not born from the womb with that attitude.
You learned it.
You were enculturated.
Learned behavior.
This is your culture.

“Sex is dirty.” This is our culture.

Just “good clean sex” is also enculturated.

Why do you like or hate sex?
Why are you indifferent towards sex?
What kind of sexual, or nonsexual person are you?

Sex.

Dirty?

Only to some…
Not to others…

Do you ever have “dirty” thoughts?
Do you ever think sex feels wonderful?
Can sex be fun simply because it is seen as dirty?
Like you’re getting away with something?
Like you’re in on a secret?

Sex…
Dirty?

Can it be both dirty and good, depending?
Yes?

Welcome to the concept of sexual relativism…
Where both views are equally valid and neither is “right” or “wrong”

After all, “dirty” is merely a label, a concept.

Sex is an act.

Have you had some good dirty sex today?

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